Engaged to the person of your dreams, but overwhelmed by your monster to-do list and underwhelmed by that stubborn waistline?
Your engagement is one of the most precious times of your life. Alas for your health, it can also be one of the most stressful!
I was honoured to attend two of my clients’ weddings this year. I watched them struggle with conflicting priorities and a stressed-out body that became resistant to losing weight.
Here is a curated list of insightful advice on how to make it through your engagement without going stir-crazy:
Lean On Supportive Friends
We tend to be greatly influenced by the people we are surrounded by. People who truly care about us want to see us succeed, especially during such an important time in our lives. If your friends make comments like, “You’re working out again?” or “You’re so obsessed”, it might be time to find new friends. Some people unconsciously try to talk down other people’s success and accomplishments, because they may be feeling insecure about themselves. Keep striving for your best, and keep good people around you.
Involve Your Partner
One of my new clients, Somi, provided valuable advice that just makes sense: maximize your resources and delegate work to your fiancé! “So many women try to take everything on by themselves”, she says, “when your partner can do a lot of the work”. Make it a team effort and work through your to-do list together—like practicing for the real deal. Sourcing vendors and getting prices are straightforward tasks that your man can do. And if they cannot… perhaps think twice about this wedding!
Focus On Compounding Successes
It is easy to get overwhelmed when you look at your to-do list of as a whole. A former client, Cecilia, suggests breaking up larger tasks into smaller, manageable chunks that can be handled on a daily basis. I have never planned a wedding, but managing my business requires just as much organization. I use my iPhone’s Notes app to list my top to-do tasks for the day, my week’s priorities, and long-term goals for the month and rest of the year. Maximize your technology—it can do wonders for efficiency!
Order A Smaller Dress
Suitable only for those who have not placed the order yet—this may be too risky for some! My client Lil’ B experienced an ordering catastrophe that turned into a blessing in disguise. She ordered her dress in size US12. Weeks later, she received a UK12—which is a US6! The vendor had sent the wrong size. This bundle of positivity accepted the challenge to shed the weight and stuck to a low-carb, 4-workouts-a-week plan. At her last fitting, her waist was four inches too SMALL. Up for the challenge? Order a couple sizes down so you have no choice but to get it done.
Think of training as essential as eating or going to work (I hope that is essential!). That way, your weight loss results will be healthy and permanent. A consistent year of 30-45 minute workouts is a much better alternative than a desperate two months of three-hour sessions. Life AFTER the wedding also matters—develop the habit of daily exercise so that the weight you lost stays away from your midsection and underarms.
Years ago, I bought a book on the philosophy of martial arts written by a man who trained under Bruce Lee. Among its nuggets of wisdom was a unique meditation breathing technique. Whenever you want to reclaim inner peace, close your eyes and breathe in deeply. Imagine a cloud of coloured smoke filling your body. Hold the cloud for five seconds and slowly exhale. Visualize the cloud leaving your lungs, throat, and nostrils. Repeat this exercise 10 times to bring calmness back to your physiology.
Activate Theta Waves
If you are getting married this summer, take advantage of the seasons and get into a daily jogging routine. Not only beneficial for cardiovascular health and toning the legs, running helps to clear the mind. Random creative solutions also pop by unannounced. If you are stuck on a problem, slip on your runners and let your body coast on autopilot. Your brainwaves will enter theta state, which allows for superior problem-solving.
Engaged? Share your wedding prep secrets!