Now the kids are back in school…What About YOU?
As women, we tend to need a bit of a nudge when it comes to self-care. It is not that we do not want to take care of ourselves (because we so do!), but the demands of life and those we love keep us so busy that it is easy for us to forget about the importance of honouring ourselves as well. With back-to-school time upon us, this is a great time to revisit this issue and bring back to centre the importance of YOU!
Nature is Our School
For mothers, self-caring is often not only forgotten about, but actually can become a source of anxiety and pressure. This may sound crazy, but if you are a mum, you know exactly what I am talking about. Self-care can feel like yet another should that you are not doing, even though you know it would benefit you and make you feel so much better. (Like we need more items on our To Do List, right? Oh my goodness, I hear you!)
As you are reading this, knowing that I am a registered psychologist, you may be bracing yourself for me to tell you what to do or that what you are doing is wrong. Sorry to disappoint, but I will not do that.
What I would like to do instead is offer you a warm embrace, acknowledging how amazing you are. In the midst of the embrace, I would like to invite both of us to experience the bliss of being women who care enough to want to make a difference in the world. In the midst of this embrace, we can enjoy the beautiful moment of comfort, remembering that deep inside, we are also children who love to play and laugh and experience pleasure just like our kids do. And in that tiny moment, we can simply relish in the joy and privilege of receiving. At the end of the embrace, we can join hands in brainstorming about creative ways to increase the ease and space in our lives, so that we might enjoy more moments like this.
Now that the kids are back in school, instead of focusing on doing more, perhaps we can explore ways to do less. Asking other parents to share carpooling and after school pick-up responsibilities is one way to do this.
Including your children more in the day-to-day life tasks like cooking meals with you is another.
Not only does this help lighten your load, but it also gives you a wonderful opportunity to share more time with your kids, enjoy healthier food, and have the time to teach them about all the things that really matter. Most importantly, during these moments, you can celebrate this opportunity of getting to know each other better.
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